Making this Mother’s Day Different from the Last

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Last year, a wise mom who had gone through her own child loss gave me some helpful advice: don’t go to church on Mother’s Day. On many other days of the year, maybe I would handle my grief well.

But having just lost Hadassah two months before, I would have just broken into pieces during that service. I was spending another Mother’s Day as a mom without a baby to cuddle, and I would need time off to hold onto my wonderful husband and work through the pain.

Last year, I wouldn’t exactly say that we observed Mother’s Day as much as we gave ourselves space for the world to observe it around us. This year, though, what if you and I celebrated the day as we should? Should we always have to feel guilt and sorrow because we’re mothers on Mother’s Day? Continue reading “Making this Mother’s Day Different from the Last”

God’s Love Runs Deep {and Never Fails}

Easter will be here in less than two weeks. For some people, celebrating Easter means dying eggs in pastel colors, setting up bunny decorations around the house, and picking out Easter baskets stuffed with chocolate bunnies and yellow Peeps (they are rather cute!). But Easter does go beyond bunnies and eggs. It’s a day that we celebrate God’s great love for us, a love that never fails (Matt. 26:1-28:10).

Don’t get me wrong about your Easter traditions. Growing up, we often bought new dresses around Easter to wear that Sunday.

Then, we would go to an early sunrise service at church and share a scrumptious breakfast. I do remember dying eggs and going to Easter egg hunts a few times too. I’m not here to start an argument about how to celebrate Easter, but I do want to direct your attention a little.

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Find Healing through Online Grief Support

Online Grief Support

If you’ve experienced any grief over losing your child, you know just how extremely vital it is to get support. You may have seen the effects of the amazingly supportive people in your life, or you may understand the effects of living without support. For many, you might just fear the shame of asking for someone else’s help. Enter online grief support—through AfterTalk, to be exact.

You may have seen the article that I recently wrote for AfterTalk, and I thank you deeply for all your support. Many of you read this article and shared it on social media.

But AfterTalk actually goes beyond their inspirational stories and quotes on their blog. This grief website is an online support group that you can join for FREE, and they have several communities. Continue reading “Find Healing through Online Grief Support”

The Anniversary: We Actually Enjoyed Our Daughter’s Birthday

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Many of you already know that we celebrated our daughter’s birthday a mere two days ago—without her here. And yes, we did actually celebrate. 🙂 It wasn’t the easiest day out of the year, but Kenny and I both agreed that we had an extremely good day remembering our precious girl.

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How to Approach a Bereaved Mother

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I have spent eleven months in this new journey as a bereaved mother. It’s funny how much you think you know about something until you experience it. Then, when you have experienced that thing, all the guess work, philosophizing, and what-ifs are thrown out the door. Now, you really know the subject.

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Coping with the Physical Effects of Grief

Grief Physical Effects

It makes sense that you would feel the physical effects of grief taxing your body and emotions when your child’s death first happens. Everyone offers his sympathy and nods his assent then.

They may not know grief personally, but they can relate to your feelings. After all, you just experienced the tragic loss of your child. That’s not supposed to happen.

But what about two months later? How about the six- or nine-month mark?

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Christmas Hope for the Grieving

Christmas—a time of giving, kindness, attention to the homeless or poor, and a season warmed by glowing smiles, jingling holiday music, and balmy Christmas hope. For those of us who have lost loved ones, our laughter and cheer might feel a bit pretend. A sip of hearty peppermint hot chocolate might taste bittersweet.

I do think about my children and grandparents in Heaven at times. I’m sure you think about yours too. But at least for me, Christmas truly does wrap me in a blanket of hope.

Maybe hope is just a habit that we humans have formed around Christmastime. Growing up, we hoped for treats and presents and days off from school so much that those hopes bled over into our adult lives too.

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13 Perfect Gifts for Bereaved Mothers

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Christmas is peeking at us right around the corner, and we’re all rushing to find those perfect gifts for family and friends. Maybe someone in your life recently lost a child, and you’re wondering what to get them. So, as a mommy who has gone through the trial of losing a child, I rounded up a few gifts that I think would be perfect for bereaved mothers.

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Giving Thanks Through Your Child’s Death

Giving Thanks in Child's Death

“The Lord will never give you more than you can bear.” This thought from the Bible burns in my mind when I think about my babies in Heaven. God has showered my life with so many blessings. I honestly can’t think of a trial much deeper for me than enduring a child’s death.

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5 Subtle Ways to Remember Your Deceased Child

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The Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons can provide so much joy and warmth, filled with teasing family and gift exchanges. For some of you, though, this season will remind you of a terrible trial—and your deceased child.

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