Easter will be here in less than two weeks. For some people, celebrating Easter means dying eggs in pastel colors, setting up bunny decorations around the house, and picking out Easter baskets stuffed with chocolate bunnies and yellow Peeps (they are rather cute!). But Easter does go beyond bunnies and eggs. It’s a day that we celebrate God’s great love for us, a love that never fails (Matt. 26:1-28:10).
Don’t get me wrong about your Easter traditions. Growing up, we often bought new dresses around Easter to wear that Sunday.
Then, we would go to an early sunrise service at church and share a scrumptious breakfast. I do remember dying eggs and going to Easter egg hunts a few times too. I’m not here to start an argument about how to celebrate Easter, but I do want to direct your attention a little.
When Doubts Abound
When you’ve suffered something so great as child loss, you might find yourself doubting God’s deep love for you. If you don’t believe in God, maybe your suffering has intensified that disbelief. Let me assure you, though, that God’s love most definitely never fails.
Here are a few thoughts that might be swirling through your head right now:
- God doesn’t know what He’s putting me through.
- How could God take away my child?
- What did I do wrong to deserve losing my child?
- God must enjoy seeing me suffer.
- How can I serve God when He took away my baby?
I know that some of these thoughts seem strong and sometimes hateful, but I thought many of these same things. Losing your child absolutely challenges everything you’ve ever believed in, and the loss will shake up your life like no other situation can.
You didn’t expect to lose your baby. Some of you even went to the hospital that day, enraptured that you’d get to take your baby home. No wonder these angry doubts come into your mind after such an event.
If you are having doubts about God’s deep love for you, let me direct you to one important idea:
God Lost His Son Too.
If you don’t believe in God, humor me for a moment. Let’s think that God does actually exist. Remember Easter Sunday?
Although we throw in traditions like bunnies and egg hunts for this holiday, Easter actually celebrates the death and resurrection of the most important human being who ever lived.
That man was Jesus. Jesus is God’s Son, a human representation of God on earth (Col. 1:15). The logic gets a little technical here about how Jesus could be a representation of God while God was in Heaven.
But just think about water. You can see water in three different forms: steam, liquid, and ice. Yet, all three forms are still water.
Jesus is simply one of God’s three forms: God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit. But all three forms are still one God.
Now, let’s get back to Easter. In order for God to save you and me from our sinful actions, God had to part with His Son Jesus. He had to offer a perfect sacrifice that would avenge all the sinful things that you and I have done (2 Cor. 5:20b-21; Rom. 8:3-4).
Did God want to part with His Son to save wicked people who hate Him? Well, you and I might not be so merciful.
But God’s love runs so deep that He gave up the one treasure He had. He gave up the perfect communion that He had always experienced with His Son—to cover your sins (John 3:16). Talk about love that never fails!
Your Response to God
Your response to God’s unfailing love is key. Remember that He went so far as to give up His own Son for your sake (Rom. 10:9).
Would you or I have done the same thing? Probably not.
Unfortunately, when we experience a great trial vaguely similar to the one that God did, we automatically blame Him for it. We doubt our faith in Him and question God’s love for us over and over.
I know this little tidbit because I questioned God. I often prayed angry prayers, asking God why He let such a tragic thing happen to me.
I even pulled out the “I’m your servant” card, reasoning that God should only ever bless His children. Boy, when I think about the sins that I’ve committed, I realize just how little blessing I deserve.
God’s Love Never Fails
I guess I’m telling you all these ideas because I know all the hurts that I went through. Yes, some of these are just emotions that you’re going to have to work through.
But let me challenge you: don’t rely on your feelings at the moment. Don’t allow those feelings about your child loss to define your view of God because they are most definitely skewed. And most importantly, don’t let these emotions convince you that God doesn’t love you (Rom. 5:8).
Even in the tragic death of a child, God is showing His utter mercy and love. You may not know all the details, but God certainly knows them (Rom. 8:28).
And for those of you who are choosing to disbelieve in God because of your child loss, remember that God lost His Son too. He is not an unfeeling Being that stomps at you whenever He gets the chance. Just as this imperfect world brought about the loss of your child, God too had to grieve over the imperfection and death that washed over Jesus.
The Reason for Celebration
I can’t end this lengthy article at Jesus’ death, though. In God’s case, He overcame sin by bringing Jesus back to life (Matt. 28:1-10). This part was vital to Jesus’ purifying others from their own sin.
Since we ourselves could not offer a sacrifice that overcame death and sin, Jesus had to make that sacrifice. And He had to be resurrected to show God’s power over that sin too.
For these reasons, grieving mothers like you can actually celebrate Easter with a greater understanding of Jesus’ sacrifice. You can identify with God’s pain on a level that you may have never understood before. And if you haven’t accepted Christ as your Savior, you can choose to believe and trust in the sacrifice that Jesus made for you.
Oh, the deep, deep love of Jesus!
How are you celebrating Easter this year? Leave me a comment! 🙂