In preparation for this Sunday’s Angels Meeting, I am posing this question to you, “Is God still good even during child loss?” Questions crowded my mind the moment that we knew the likely outcome of Hadassah’s birth. When she died, I felt angry that such a catastrophe would even happen to me. The likelihood of a baby being born with ectopia cordis is eight out of one million babies. One million.
“Lord, I have served you wholeheartedly. Why my baby?” I knew that God loved me through my daughter’s death, but I had a hard time reconciling what I knew with what I felt.
I would turn on the radio or listen to Spotify, and Chris Tomlin’s voice would bellow out his song “Good, Good Father.” Without fail, this song would play. I would just cry as I listened. Was He really still a good Father?
Yes, He is a good Father. In fact, God can do nothing but good. Goodness is literally defined by Him. Psalm 119:68 says, “Thou art good, and doest good; teach me Thy statutes.”
Think about it. If God did not exist, then how could we tell what is called “good” and what is called “bad”? One person’s “good” might be another person’s “bad.” Someone might think that desiring to be with someone who is not your spouse is wrong, and another may say that it’s all right as long as you don’t act on it. How would we know whose standard was correct? There would be no common standard, no final authority. There must be Someone to make the final decision, Someone who knows the difference between good and bad.
Knowing that God is goodness frees us. Wait a second. If God can do nothing but good, does this mean that my child’s death is good?
No. You’re not getting the point. The point is that God cannot be the source of the suffering and death.
Here’s the source: “Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? . . . And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, . . . she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat” (Genesis 3).
This verse recounts the first sin when man accepted the twisted version of God’s truth and acted upon it. Romans 8 reveals that the whole earth groans in pain because of this original sin. Sin was brought into the world, and the entire physical earth was affected by it.
So even if you or your child never actually sinned to cause death, you must realize that death happens because sin entered the world. Sin has affected the world ever since.
Let me repeat that. Death and suffering don’t happen because of God. They happen because of sin, our sin and the sins of others before us. Death happens because of our own sin and because of Adam and Eve’s original sin. We cannot blame God because He hates sin. He cannot cause sin.
God does care about your suffering. That’s why John 3:16 exists: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son.”
Wow, God lost His Son too. In fact, it was worse than that. He gave up His Son in order to bestow grace upon our undeserving lives. We deserve eternal punishment for disobeying God’s laws, but instead He sacrifices His only Son for our lives.
So God is good. He wanted us to be restored to Himself so much that He gave His Son for us. I can’t stop repeating that thought. God is good.
What do you think? Is God still good?
(information adapted from Ken Ham’s How Could a Loving God)