October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. When President Ronald Reagan pronounced this loss awareness in 1988, he showed his deep sorrow for bereaved mothers.
“When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them,” he said.
While many mothers will hug loved ones tight during holidays or birthdays, we should hold those bereaved mothers tight during October’s loss awareness. We should reach out to these angels’ mommies, expressing our heartfelt love and sympathy. Show your support for them.
Here are a few ways you can support mothers during this loss awareness month:
Participate in a remembrance walk.
Walking to remember a loved one’s loss puts feet to your sympathy-literally. While the child’s death may have happened long ago, many mothers will appreciate your loving display.
And finding a remembrance walk near you shouldn’t prove too difficult. The Tears Foundation plans them in locations all over the US. If you want to walk on loss awareness day (October 15th), you could look locally or join the national Share Walk in Missouri.
2. Light a candle.
On October 15, you can join families all around the world in lighting candles at 7 pm. If everyone keeps the candles burning for one hour, you will create a wave of light around the entire globe. I can only imagine how beautiful the lights must look to our precious babies in Heaven.
3. Give a keepsake.
So many sites provide keepsakes that you can give a bereaved mother. One of my favorite keepsakes is a locket that had Hadassah’s name and date inscribed on it. If the mother has pictures but can’t bring herself to put them in a scrapbook or album, consider doing it for her. Later, she can flip through them without having spent hours reliving the nightmare.
4. Offer your services.
You can show your support by offering to help with house cleaning, errands, or meals. Bereaved mothers go through spells of sadness, and the start of the holiday seasons may trigger it. Ward off the sadness by simply extending your kindness, showing these mothers that you’re aware of their loss and that you love them.
by Sarah George