Making this Mother’s Day Different from the Last

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Last year, a wise mom who had gone through her own child loss gave me some helpful advice: don’t go to church on Mother’s Day. On many other days of the year, maybe I would handle my grief well.

But having just lost Hadassah two months before, I would have just broken into pieces during that service. I was spending another Mother’s Day as a mom without a baby to cuddle, and I would need time off to hold onto my wonderful husband and work through the pain.

Last year, I wouldn’t exactly say that we observed Mother’s Day as much as we gave ourselves space for the world to observe it around us. This year, though, what if you and I celebrated the day as we should? Should we always have to feel guilt and sorrow because we’re mothers on Mother’s Day? Continue reading “Making this Mother’s Day Different from the Last”

God’s Love Runs Deep {and Never Fails}

Easter will be here in less than two weeks. For some people, celebrating Easter means dying eggs in pastel colors, setting up bunny decorations around the house, and picking out Easter baskets stuffed with chocolate bunnies and yellow Peeps (they are rather cute!). But Easter does go beyond bunnies and eggs. It’s a day that we celebrate God’s great love for us, a love that never fails (Matt. 26:1-28:10).

Don’t get me wrong about your Easter traditions. Growing up, we often bought new dresses around Easter to wear that Sunday.

Then, we would go to an early sunrise service at church and share a scrumptious breakfast. I do remember dying eggs and going to Easter egg hunts a few times too. I’m not here to start an argument about how to celebrate Easter, but I do want to direct your attention a little.

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Find Healing through Online Grief Support

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If you’ve experienced any grief over losing your child, you know just how extremely vital it is to get support. You may have seen the effects of the amazingly supportive people in your life, or you may understand the effects of living without support. For many, you might just fear the shame of asking for someone else’s help. Enter online grief support—through AfterTalk, to be exact.

You may have seen the article that I recently wrote for AfterTalk, and I thank you deeply for all your support. Many of you read this article and shared it on social media.

But AfterTalk actually goes beyond their inspirational stories and quotes on their blog. This grief website is an online support group that you can join for FREE, and they have several communities. Continue reading “Find Healing through Online Grief Support”

Christmas Hope for the Grieving

Christmas—a time of giving, kindness, attention to the homeless or poor, and a season warmed by glowing smiles, jingling holiday music, and balmy Christmas hope. For those of us who have lost loved ones, our laughter and cheer might feel a bit pretend. A sip of hearty peppermint hot chocolate might taste bittersweet.

I do think about my children and grandparents in Heaven at times. I’m sure you think about yours too. But at least for me, Christmas truly does wrap me in a blanket of hope.

Maybe hope is just a habit that we humans have formed around Christmastime. Growing up, we hoped for treats and presents and days off from school so much that those hopes bled over into our adult lives too.

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13 Perfect Gifts for Bereaved Mothers

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Christmas is peeking at us right around the corner, and we’re all rushing to find those perfect gifts for family and friends. Maybe someone in your life recently lost a child, and you’re wondering what to get them. So, as a mommy who has gone through the trial of losing a child, I rounded up a few gifts that I think would be perfect for bereaved mothers.

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When Grief Turns into Depression

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We kind of expect a level of depression when we lose our children. We would feel wrong about bouncing back into normal life without heart-wrenching grief or those lifeless, empty moments. Still, you don’t want your grief-related depression to sink too far.

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Care Package Campaign

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First of all, thank all of you who prayed and lit candles on Saturday for Infant Loss Awareness Day. When I heard about the Wave of Light, I pictured our children looking down on the dark world but smiling at thousands of tiny twinkles appearing across it. Thank you for honoring those children.

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But Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month isn’t over! Angels’ Mommies would like to present our new Care Package Campaign.

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Taking Care of Yourself

 

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Taking care of yourself

People say this phrase a lot when you lose a child. Unfortunately, it’s a little vague for all the truth it holds. Are there steps you should follow for taking care of yourself? When will you know that you completed the process?

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Is God Still Good During Child Loss?

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In preparation for this Sunday’s Angels Meeting, I am posing this question to you, “Is God still good even during child loss?” Questions crowded my mind the moment that we knew the likely outcome of Hadassah’s birth. When she died, I felt angry that such a catastrophe would even happen to me. The likelihood of a baby being born with ectopia cordis is eight out of one million babies. One million.

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How the Bible Helped Me through Child Loss

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Whether you have suffered a miscarriage or carried your baby full-term, child loss is equally anguishing. Turning to God throughout this trial is a must. When you have no peace, trust in the One Who is everlasting Peace. When you have no stability, trust the One Who created the world. When you no longer have the strength to step out of bed in the morning, trust the One Who is everlasting Strength.

As I grieve my babies who are in Heaven, I continually remember God’s promises in His word about trials. I remember a specific instance when I was depressed about Hadassah’s death. I was so depressed that I literally felt weighed down, my body slumping while I vegetated on the couch.

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